Notes On…Stories Shaping the World
One of my favorite poets is Marie Howe, a celebrated American poet known for her powerful and deeply personal explorations of love, loss, and the human experience. Years ago, I stumbled upon a beautiful interview with Marie, and from that moment on, I was captivated by her words and the emotions her writing evoked within me. Fate granted me a brief encounter with Marie when I volunteered for an event at the Zen Center of Contemplative Care in New York City, an experience that, in many ways, became a poem within my heart. Through her poetry and my encounter with her, Marie Howe has left an indelible mark on my soul.
Howe scripts a profound truth in her poem "The Gate": "The world is made of stories, not of atoms." With this simple yet powerful statement, Howe provocatively asserts that stories genuinely constitute the essence of our being, and she invites us to consider the fundamental role of stories in shaping our understanding of the world. Let's explore the significance of narratives and their transformative power in influencing our perceptions, beliefs, and collective human experience.
Howe's assertion challenges the conventional understanding of our everyday reality. While atoms are the building blocks of matter, stories, according to her, constitute the essence of our existence. Stories capture the complexity of our human emotions, experiences, and aspirations, transcending the physical realm to give meaning to our lives. These stories are the fabric that weaves our personal and collective identities together and shapes our understanding of ourselves and others. From ancient myths and timeless legends to the intimate narratives of individuals, stories serve as mirrors through which we perceive ourselves and make sense of the world around us.
In her work "What the Living Do," Howe writes, "There are stories we tell ourselves to live, and there are stories that others tell us in order to make us live." This line breathes the idea that storytelling is not only a means of self-expression but also a vital tool for survival and resilience. Here, Howe suggests two types of stories: the narratives we construct within ourselves and the narratives that society, family, or others impose upon us. The stories we tell ourselves serve as a coping mechanism, helping us navigate the challenges and paradoxes of life. These personal stories allow us to make sense of our emotions, memories, and struggles, providing a sense of purpose and guiding us through challenging times.
On the other hand, the stories others tell us are the external narratives that shape our identity and understanding of the world. These stories can come from various sources, such as cultural beliefs, societal norms, or the expectations and judgments of others. They can influence how we perceive ourselves and impact our sense of self-worth, belonging, and possibilities. We must remember that it is vital to recognize that we have the power to engage with these external narratives critically. While the stories imposed upon us by others can be influential, we ultimately have the agency to question, challenge, and redefine them.
Ask yourself: Are these narratives aligned with my authentic self? Do they empower and inspire me? Identify the stories that no longer serve you and actively seek to rewrite them. The story continues…
